So I got this question just now on Tumblr, and even though I wrote a reply there I thought I'd make a blog post about it 'cause I have so much more to say.
I struggle every single day with not doing what's expected of me by other people. This is extremely difficult 'cause everyone is surrounded by expectations in one way or another. But what you realize pretty soon after you start doing what YOU want, is that it feels pretty darn good.
When it came time for me to choose a "major" in high school, which is what we do in Sweden, the science program was a given. It "opened up all doors for me". That was what I was told and what other people told me. It's great! Never mind that I hate science hahah, that's irrelevant. I ended up attending two different schools in a 6 month period, before I dropped out to start over again the fall after.
This time I took the social science program with a media major and it was a perfect fit for me! All three years were great and I actually remember it as a fun time. I learned so much and it was exactly what was meant for me to do. Did I know this at the time of choosing? No I didn't, so odds are I wouldn't have made the right choice even if I "followed my gut", so I guess I just had to fail once to be able to successfully make it through all three years, and that's fine!
Then it came time for me to choose my university program and went for graphic design 'cause I had a thing for it during the time period that I had to pick something. So I did, I moved, and already after the first semester I realized that it wasn't really what I wanted. But I just went with it and stuck it out for another TWO years. Then I had enough and decided to drop out. One semester before getting my bachelor degree. Why you may ask? Why didn't I just stick it out? Well what the heck am I going to do with a bachelor degree in something that I hate? Makes no sense. So I decided to drop out and take another leap into the unknown, in the search for the thing I actually wanted to do.
I ended up in a new town, where I know no one, far away from my family, boyfriend and friends with a full time job. How did this happen? I don't even know how I ended up here!
What I'm trying to say is that I've tried, time and time again, to do what is expected of me. And it literally has NEVER worked out for me hahaha! And it has been EQUALLY DIFFICULT every single time when I have to make the decision to follow my own dreams and go where my heart takes me. It's never never easy to do that for me, but every time after I've done it, everything takes a step towards the better.
It's okay to be scared and it's okay not to know what you want to do. But never feel like YOUR dream is bad and not worth pursuing! OF COURSE there's hope if you don't attend college. There's hope if you follow your dream. Have ambitions, live an awesome life! Be happy! That's all you have to do. There truly is no point in spending your time trying to please other people 'cause they're not the ones living your life in the end.
I fail all the time, but I'm not a failure for it haha. I just live and learn and move on! x