I just finished going through the emails I have gotten so far for my Personal Tattoo Advice video and I thought I'd answer one of them on my blog. Because it's one that I do not have an answer for to be honest. All I have are thoughts.
Once I was at a business dinner with a company I had just started working for. It was my first time meeting all of them. I guess some of them had a bit too much to drink or maybe they were just assholes in general. But the person sitting across from me at the dinner decided to question my body modifications and tell me straight to my face that he thought they were very ugly. Needless to say that dinner wasn't too pleasant. It took all my willpower not to let him know how I felt about his appearance...
This is not a rare incident that only happened once in my life. Yes, I definitely get a majority of compliments, but the disgusted looks don't go unnoticed. And how do you deal with these people?
I would never accept anyone close to me treating me this way, and that goes for family, friends and partners. Insulting me because my choices differ from theirs is not acceptable behavior. I feel like our relationships should be deeper than my skin, and since I don't have family, friends or a partner that insult me, I'm confident that it is the case.
But you can't always stop complete strangers from being assholes, and honestly when it happens to me it doesn't make me mad or sad. It just shocks me. It shocks me that people can be so insensitive, rude and disrespectful to another human being that they haven't taken two minutes to have a conversation with before insulting. It blows my mind.
And don't even get me started on the internet...
These are not people I will ever spend my time getting to know. What goes around, comes around. I often see my body modifications as a wall. A wall of society's "ugly" that weed out the people not worth getting to know. And it has worked pretty damn well so far.
Body modifications are okay to insult because they are "an ugly that you have chosen". You are not born with it, so insulting it is not equally frowned upon. Makes you wonder... what other people are excluded from this elite group that deserves to be treated with respect.