STARTED FROM THE bottom...
I always thought that I would be an independent, confident, secure girlfriend. And I always thought that I wanted an independent, confident, secure boyfriend. Be careful what you wish for! Turns out, I was a jealous, anxious, needy girlfriend who definitely didn't want an independent boyfriend with a life of his own. Cue the grumpy girlfriend!
For the first 5 years of our relationship, I was an emotional Bambi on ice with anger management issues.
The advice I got was either “dump him” or “work on your self-love”.
I don't have to tell you how useless this advice was. "Work on your self-love"... what does that even mean? I don't think the people who give that advice even know what it means.
But I wouldn't give up hope. I was relentless in my pursuit of answers. Solutions. CURES to this emotional poison I was suffering from in my good relationship.
I knew that if it was possible for my boyfriend to "just be happy" in our relationship, it was possible for me too. I just had to figure out how...
MY SOLUTION CRITERIA:
Logical, not vague and “woo-ey”.
Change me, not my partner.
In my own control to execute.
Create lasting change.
I tried every solution in the book (including hoping for an actual illness) so you don't have to.
I spent years going on and off birth-control, going to therapy, controlling my bf (sorry), and doing physical and neuropsychiatric evaluations... trying to find the cause of my not-so-charming grumpienss.
Once I found the solution, I knew I needed to pay it forward. So here we are.
LOVE: RED WINE, WINTER SWIMS, GETTING OLDEr
Where I go to process jealousy:
If anyone is snoring or barking in the back of our coaching sessions, it's menace. He's not as innocent as he looks,
In-between our calls, I'm playing padel.
If I tell you I'm taking a week off for vacation, i'll probably be in Skåne, Sweden with my mom.
Curiosity, radical responsibility, let's f*cking go-energy, eagerness to learn, BIG goals and dreams!
Love languages, trying to control your partner, self-judgment, blame,“toxic” anything, making excuses.
agree? we're probably a great fit.
It's not something you're either born with or... in our cases, born without. It's a skill anyone can learn at any stage in their life. Whether you're in your first relationship, been together forever, or found love after divorce, it's never too late to become the best girlfriend you can be.